Where To Meet Like Minded Women

Before we begin, I'd like to say, that I've always struggled with making friends. I have a naturally shy and quiet nature in social settings which has often made it difficult for me to open up and create long lasting bonds.

On top of that, being the only little black girl in my classroom for the entirety of my youth, made it hard for me to not feel like a complete alien around the other girls in my class. When summer rolled around every year, the pool party invites would come in, only for me to not want to go, in fear of what the boys and girls in my class might think if they saw my hair in its natural state.

When I entered high school, going tanning or laying out by the pool with friends was something I heard about, but was never invited to participate in.

Long story short, making friends at school has never been a cake walk for me.

Luckily, I was blessed with a mother who put me in every after school program known to man. Or at least every one available within a 10 mile radius.

I took Polynesian dance classes, I entered pageants, did competitive studio dancing, rode horses, took Japanese emersion lessons, chess lessons, golf lessons. You name it, I was doing it. Being my naturally shy self, I was always nervous to enter a new classroom or dance studio with a bunch of kids I didn't know. But I usually ended up having an absolute blast.

And while all those classes may have seemed excessive at the time, I was learning a very important life lesson.

When I was in 6th grade, and started to realize that because of my involvement in pageants, I had friends all across the country and I really didn't need to seek the approval of the kids in my everyday classroom. I was living a vibrant life outside of school, that gave me perspective and gave me friends who also loved the things I loved.

THE LESSON: You have to be intentional about the activities you partake in, if you want to be around like minded women.

If you want to be around other elegant, classy women, chances are you won't meet them at WWE games or Monster Truck rallies. (You could, but you'd have much better luck searching elsewhere). Chances are, you'll meet them at tea parties, book clubs, at cooking classes and wine & paint nights.