Hello Lovely Reader,
Welcome back to the blog!
I think one of my December resolutions will be (and I know I always say this) blogging more. You would think, as someone who loves to write as much as I do, I'd carve out more time for this. But alas, with the growth of my channel and it quickly turning into my job instead of my hobby, I have prioritized creating videos above writing. And I want to change that.
Please SOMEONE hold me to this!
For today's post, I want to discuss the ways in which I'm able to have feminine success in my daily life.
Now, I know what you're thinking...what on God's green earth, is feminine success?
Well, the way I look at it, it's the ability to remain in your femininity while still being productive. So instead of allowing your responsibilities to harden you or aggravate you, you look at them through a feminine perspective.
One where doing the dishes is an honor, not a chore. And where making your bed is a luxury and not a daily annoyance.
Feminine success is about balance.
Balancing a healthy and thriving relationship, responsibilities in the home or at work, with your own peace, joy, softness, and efficiency.
I've been thinking about this a lot lately, as I know that my life will change very soon.
Soon, I'll be engaged, and then married, and I'll have my own home to run. My own responsibilities. Dirty dishes to clean, laundry to fold, dinner to make and so much more. And I want to do this with the ease and grace of someone who both relaxes and thrives in her femininity.
Living at home in my 20s, has meant that much of my adult life has been somewhat similar to my adolescent life. Sure, I have chores and responsibilities around the house, but I am not the woman of this house. So it's been an interesting time, navigating living in my childhood home, while also being very much, an adult.
Trying to practice nesting, decorating and even scheduling proves difficult when you don't necessarily have your own space to do these things.
But somehow I've managed to have a thriving YouTube channel, a loving and healthy relationship, and maintain my femininity in various aspects of my life.
Here are some of the ways that I've been able to do this, and hopefully I can inspire you ladies to not look at your responsibilities through eyes of drudgery, but acknowledge them from a viewpoint of desiring feminine success.
1. Google Calendar is my best friend.
I've spoken on my channel about my memory issues before and no matter how many sudoku or brain games I play, there are some things I just can't remember without my phone reminding me and I'm not ashamed to say it!
There's no need to stress yourself out trying to memorize your schedule, when we have modern technology that is able to help you and make life a little easier.
I don't just use my calendar to remind me of important events, I use it to remind me of everything.
When to take my vitamins, various appointments, when to exercise. Because I genuinely will forget. In doing this, I don't have to worry about forgetting something important and stressing at the last minute to get prepared.
2. I prioritize my relationship.
This one might be controversial, but for me, I've learned that when my relationship is thriving, other areas of my life thrive as well. Mind you, my partner also prioritizes me and our relationship, so this is in no way a one way street. But I find that I'm able to truly rest in my femininity when I am authentically fulfilling my role in our relationship.
From the beginning, Cain has been the provider, and I have contributed in other ways. I lend him a listening ear, wise advice, and a gentle feminine spirit. Meanwhile, he supports my dreams with YouTube, my desire to be a homemaker, and does everything he can to help me live my cottage princess fantasy dreams. I'm naturally softer, funnier, and more joyful around him, and I find that when I aim to make him happy, he does the same for me. Which in turn, makes me want to make him happy again. It's a wonderful cycle.
3. I draw from my feminine inspirations.
Whenever I'm feeling like I really don't have it together, I look to my feminine inspirations to guide me and help me along this journey.
First, of course, is my mom. The ultimate homemaker. She is simultaneously lovely and hilarious, while also being incredibly focused and thorough. She gives Mr. Clean a run for his money, and can organize like nobody's business. I wish I could say that I got any organizational skills from her genetically, but unfortunately, that is not the case. And staying organized is something that is much more intentional and learned for me. She's an incredible source for everything I need to know about how to get out nasty oil stains, to how to keep a man interested lol.
My next, and most recent inspiration, is Jennifer L. Scott of The Daily Connoisseur. I watch her videos religiously, and she is such a beautiful example of feminine success. She's accomplished in modern ways like being an author, a YouTuber, and being featured on TV shows. But more than that, she's accomplished as a wife and mother. Meal planning, living frugally, and maintaining an absolutely stunning home are just a few more of her accomplishments as a homemaker. Her videos inspire me so much to become more sophisticated and elegant, and even Cain loves her! I go to her videos often to learn how to successfully achieve balance in my life as a feminine woman.
4. I start my day with a to-do list.
I'm sure many of you do this already, but it's something that helps me get an idea of the things I need to do, without feeling overwhelmed. And let's be honest, is there any better feeling than crossing something off of a to-do list? No. There isn't.
Doing this forces me to look around and actually see what needs to be done. Instead of only thinking about the things I know I have to do, I start noticing things I wouldn't have noticed otherwise. Like the corners of my room that need de-cluttering, or the fact that my laundry needs to be put away. I have and always will swear by lists, and I am the most productive when I start my day out by writing one.
5. I make space for rest and relaxation.
Of course, this wouldn't be a Felicia post if I didn't talk about self care in some capacity. But truly, you need to recharge your feminine energy, in order to thrive in other areas.
Long luxrious baths, brisk morning walks, and meditation, are a few of the ways I like to do this. But remember, your femininity is highly personal. It's who you are. What are the things that relax you? What are the things you enjoy doing but haven't made time for? Like me, with this blog. Is it knitting? Sewing? Writing? Make space for things other than social media. I say it all the time, but you can't pour from an empty tank. How do you expect to succeed in your femininity, when you starve it of your love and attention?
We must make space for rest and relaxation. And we must look at it as a necessity, not a luxury. We must look at it with equal importance as our hygiene routines, our careers, and the other areas of our lives. Because it is equally important, if not more.
Well loves, I hope you enjoyed this post! Feminine success is a fun but not often discussed topic, and I hope I was able to give you some more insight on how I attempt to balance it all and thrive in my feminine energy.